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Approach-avoidance conflict in dogs is something that you may want to be aware of. 

Did it ever happen to you to be almost irresistibly drawn to something, yet fear it somehow? Perhaps, cold feet before a wedding or an urge to watch horror movies no matter how scary?

 In dogs these conflicting emotions tend to happen quite often in what is called approach avoidance conflict

You might therefore see your dog cautiously advance and stretch to inspect something, but at the same time you can tell from his body language that he's ready to withdraw at a moment's notice. What's going on? 

As much as it may seem like your dog has an ambivalent personality, this approach/avoidance strategy can be considered quite adaptive, meaning that it's something that has helped dogs survive throughout the centuries; however, as with everything, too much of a good thing can become problematic.

Dogs can be drawn to something, but at the same time fear it. 

Dogs can be drawn to something, but at the same time fear it. 

A Closer Look

If your dog seems to be the canine personification of Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde, rest assured you are not alone.

 Countless doggies may give the impression of dying to go meet somebody one second, and then act fearfully or even defensive, the next. What's going on?

These dogs are basically the poster child of approach-avoidance behaviors, approaching and then retreating in what seems to resemble an odd ambiguity dance.

It's almost as if these dogs are unable to make a decision on whether that "somebody" should be categorized as a friend or foe. However, most likely there's more going on beyond a rational level and there may likely be instinctive behaviors intertwined.

It may be that perhaps the dog is drawn to a person because he may have stored somewhere in his brain that similar encounters may have produced positive results or the dog may be just plain curious.

Yet, he may be tentative in embracing a new experience because of a past negative experience or it may be that it's just plain instinct at play taking over. 

This therefore triggers the need to proceed with caution, slowly and carefully, an inch at a time. Displacement behaviors such as barking or whining, can also be seen in such conflicting situations, explains Jean Donaldson, in the book: "Oh Behave!: Dogs from Pavlov to Premack to Pinker."

"Approach avoidance occurs when the behavioral goal is both attractive and aversive." ~Steven Lindsay (2000)

A History of Reinforcement

Both approach and avoidance behaviors may be backed up by a history of reinforcement. Reinforcement occurs when behaviors tend to repeat and strengthen.

If the dog in the past approached people and the encounter ended positively, such as the person giving the dog a cookie or doing something else that the dog likes, the behavior of approaching is likely to be positively reinforced

This means that the dog will likely be open to greeting people more and more in future encounters as the dog feels "rewarded" from engaging in such encounters.

Just like dogs, people also tend to repeat actions that were positively reinforced. If you love to shop, and last time you went shopping to a particular store you found great deals, you'll likely want to go to shopping at that store again and more frequently to not miss any sales.

However, if in the past, the dog approached people and the encounter ended negatively such as the person suddenly sneezing or doing something else that the dog perceives as scary (eg. looming over him or patting him on the head), the behavior of backing away and withdrawing is negatively reinforced

This means that the dog will likely withdraw more and more in future encounters as the dog feels relieved from withdrawing from such scary or unpleasant encounters...phew!

Just like dogs, people also tend to repeat actions that were negatively reinforced. If you hate being stuck in traffic, you may learn to take a short cut by taking a secondary road to cut through and reach your destination faster.

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"Approach motivation is the energization of behavior by, or the direction of behavior toward, positive stimuli (objects, events, possibilities), whereas avoidance motivation is the energization of behavior by, or the direction of behavior away from, negative stimuli (objects, events, possibilities). ~Andrew J. Elliot, The Hierarchical Model of Approach-Avoidance Motivation

During approach-avoidance a dog may appear to be in conflict between approaching or suddenly withdrawing. 

During approach-avoidance a dog may appear to be in conflict between approaching or suddenly withdrawing. 

Between Opposing Forces

What happens when a dog is drawn to something and yet at the same time is fearful? Conflict arises. Conflict is the struggle between two opposing forces. So the dog is respectively drawn and repelled to a stimulus at the same time.

However, at a closer view, there is often something occurring that triggers the withdrawal. For instance, to a fearful dog, a stranger may appear desirable from a distance, but then as the dog gets closer to the person, he or she appears less desirable and even a tad bit scary causing the dog to approach and then withdraw.

For a good reason many dog trainers and behavior consultants object to having strangers directly hand food out to your dog. The dog is leery of the stranger, but then the treat he is offering is oh, so tempting!

 His nose is drawn to the outstretched hand holding the treat, yet his body is screaming to be cautious. So Rover ends up tentatively approaching and then stretching his neck, but in the meanwhile he's realizing how close he is to the stranger, so he may back off startled.

Since this fearful reaction is the last thing that happened, this negative impression is what's likely going to be remembered in any future encounters, so there's ultimately little to no progress in liking or trusting strangers this way.

Dogs may feel drawn to people until they make the wrong move that startles them. 

Dogs may feel drawn to people until they make the wrong move that startles them. 

"When a dog has both reason to avoid and reason to approach something or someone, she will probably vacillate back and forth between affiliative, aggressive and appeasement signals... The behavior of a motivationally conflicted dog can be a risky situation for a person interacting with the dog because the dog may go either way. If you make a wrong move, the dog could shift into aggressive behaviors."~ James O' Heare, The Dog Aggression Workbook, 3rd Edition.

An Example of Approach Avoidance Conflict in Dog

How to Tackle Approach Avoidance in Dogs 

Dogs prone to approach-avoidance need to be prevented from enduring overwhelming experiences. It is therefore paramount, keeping these dogs under threshold as much as possible. 

Forcing a dog to approach something he fears or putting the dog in situations where other people or dogs approach causing anxiety and stress will only make matters worse.

Dogs need to feel free of making their own choices, but at the same time, they need to be protected from enduring negative experiences.

Such dogs may benefit from behavior modification protocols using systematic desensitization (gradual exposure to a fear-evoking stimulus through small steps), and careful counterconditioning, implemented in such a way to avoid using food to lure a dog closer. The treat-retreat game may be a good starting point to allow thee dogs to move more freely. 

Behavior modification requires skill considering that, allowing a fearful dog to engage in avoidance behaviors during graduated exposure, may result in an increase of fearful behavior rather than a decrease. 

If your dog shows signs of approach-avoidance, please consult with a force-free dog trainer/behavior consultant for safety and the correct implementation of behavior modification. 

"Numerous studies have demonstrated the debilitating effect of unpredictable and uncontrollable events on the cognitive and behavioral functioning of dogs and other animals."~ Steven Lindsay, Handbook of Applied Dog Behavior and Training, Adaptation and Learning

Disclaimer: this article is not meant to be used as a substitute for professional behavioral advice. If your dog is manifesting behavioral problems, please be safe and consult with a professional.


  • Elliot, A.J. The Hierarchical Model of Approach-Avoidance Motivation. Motiv Emot 30, 111–116 (2006).
  • O'Heare, J. (2004). The Dog Aggression Workbook, 3rd Edition. United Kingdom: Dogwise Publishing.

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